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chandra-nalaar asked:

when I made that post yesterday I gave it an hour, popped some popcorn, and just watched. I had like 100 angry asks. they're still coming. im gonna piss men are unreal

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teysakarlov:

Like clockwork, when I make a funny post, I gain like 10 followers in like an hour. Then the minute I post something about feminism, or radical politics, within a few hours, I lose at least half of them. It’s like a ritual. The cycle must be unbroken. Men are all weak.

Same.

Conflating all men to be weak isn’t helping your cause, either. Especially when I’m one of the men who reblog pretty much any soundly worded feminist post I see from the people I follow.

As long as the feminisms-related posts you’re making aren’t at a Westboro Baptist level of extreme, let the ignorant and butthurt people find the unfollow button. Let those that want to be educated stay, because you can’t teach those who don’t want to be taught.

usually i don’t take the time to respond in-depth to these but i’ll make a sepcial exception with you since you seem genuinely interested in learning.

>”Conflating all men to be weak isn’t helping your cause, either. Especially when I’m one of the men who reblog pretty much any soundly worded feminist post I see from the people I follow.”

When people say this, what I hear, as a woman and a feminist, is that, you will “support” feminists conditionally. You will support the cause of women’s liberation, but the minute we make you feel bad, the minute we make you question your ego, the minute one woman—a woman who has spent her whole life victimized, menaced, and oppressed by men—makes one sweeping comment to voice her frustration, you withdraw your support. Frankly, I don’t want that “”“support”“” anyway. This sort of conditional, support is useless to me and all of my sisters in the struggle, because while sometimes angry truths are hard to hear, they are often the start of actual analysis and even healing for the most marginalized of our sisters. Unless you, as a man, question yourself, unless you try to understand WHY men have kept women under their heels for so long, unless you speak out irl and stop your brothers from speaking ill of women and engaging in behaviors that oppress women, reblogging “soundly worded” posts only goes so far. Speaking of which, saying you only support “soundly worded” posts means you only care about our sisters who are privileged enough to have a calm, well-educated voice. Not all of us have the comfort, time, and education for that, but the voices of these sisters are the most important of them all.

>”Westboro Baptist level of extreme”

I know some feminists who are awful people. They ignore their sisters of color. They consider every instance of the word “vagina” to be transphobic. They shame trans individuals’ bodies without providing a single word of decent analysis. Cruel feminists come in all shapes and sizes, from the most liberal libfem to the most ardent radfem. That said, please find another way to talk about them besides comparing them to the Westboro Baptist church. Zeal, intensity, loudness, picketing—these are all GOOD things for feminism. Hell, even hate is a good thing. Marginalized groups have every right to hate their oppressors. Let women figure out how to weed out feminists that aren’t helping the movement. The best thing a man can do is sit and listen while we sort it all out.

>”let the ignorant and butthurt people find the unfollow button. Let those that want to be educated stay, because you can’t teach those who don’t want to be taught.”

I agree with you 100% here. I don’t usually let the unfollows bother me because I know those who are interested in learning and supporting the movement will stay, and the others have minds I probably couldn’t have changed anyway. I personally love to teach and write, and I’ll keep doing that as long as there are people willing to listen.

I hope all my male feminist ally followers blossom into practiced listeners and challenge and betray patriarchy in all its forms! It’s not easy, it can be painful, but the cause of the liberation of women everywhere is worth it.

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